My thoughts on Facebook & Why I'll Never Give Up on Blogger

At one point, I was a big fan of Facebook. I saw its use and tickled to connect with friends from all phases of my life....yada, yada, yada. Then, the fun ended. Its constant changes, its perspective and the roller coaster of emotions on the news feed exhausted me everytime I logged on. It wasn't fun, anymore. Lastly, did you know that the only reason why the FB team made it difficult to turn off the comments and likes feature was to increase their appeal to their advertisers? It wasn't to further the social experience as they like to make us believe. That translates to millions of dollars in revenue for the young company. Kudos for them but a big turn off for me. Seriously, my friends in Bahrain don't need to see what comments I make to a friend of mine in Florida they are not connected with in anyway shape or form. I just felt like a big marketing experiment. So, I made a conscious decision to log off and stay off.  Facebook free for over a week and counting.

You're probably thinking, "she'll be back." I don't think so. I did the same with Twitter a few years ago. My life is quieter. During this decision, I read two messages. One from an honest blogger that I love to visit from time to time. The other from my daily devotional that made my decision to sign off Facebook even easier. 

First, in this original post, she speaks about a young man, Jake Davis, 19, that is banned from the internet indefinitely for internet hacking. He is facing extradition to the US for his charges and could be faced with several decades of imprisonment for his conduct on the web. Makes me shutter to think of this young man's bleak future for ungentlemen like behavior online...Scary.

Excerpt from his article on the Observer and what she included, too.

"Things are calmer, slower and at times, I'll admit, more dull. I do very much miss the instant companionship of online life, the innocent chatroom palaver, and the ease with which circles with similar interests can be found. Of course, there are no search terms in real life – one actually has to search. However, there is something oddly endearing about being disconnected from the digital horde.
It is not so much the sudden simplicity of daily life – as you can imagine, trivial tasks have been made much more difficult – but the feeling of being able to close my eyes without being bombarded with flashing shapes or constant buzzing sounds, which had occurred frequently since my early teens and could only be attributed to perpetual computer marathons. Sleep is now tranquil and uninterrupted and books seem far more interesting. The paranoia has certainly vanished. I can only describe this sensation as the long-awaited renewal of a previously diminished attention span.
For it is our attention spans that have suffered the most. Our lives are compressed into short, advertisement-like bursts or "tweets". The constant stream of drivel fills page after page, eating away at our creativity. If hashtags were rice grains, do you know how many starving families we could feed? Neither do I – I can't Google it."
Second, I have the Our Daily Bread app on my smartphone. Yesterday's devotional reaffirmed my decision. The short post, The Lure of A Message, was moving but in fact it was the last line that did it for me. Don't let the noise of the world keep you from hearing the voice of the Lord. The author of the post proceeds to paraphrase from a book by Nicholas Carr, The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to Our Brains, that states that we can't resist "the sense that there might be a message out there for us." I'll have to download the book to my Kindle, later. The post proceeds to summarize Samuel receiving his first message from God and how he confused God's voice with someone else's. That happens so often to all of us. 

Both instances emphasize a quieter time where you have time to be part of the real world to listen and act upon what is expected of you in real terms. We can all agree that time reading statuses and tweets are taking us away from our other interests and obligations. I've completely eliminated magazine subscriptions and reading literature because somehow I just haven't had the time...humm....I wonder why?

Now, I'm NOT swearing off the internet. I can expand on the many pros for its uses but why bore you with more details. I enjoy this space. It's my journal, message board and creative outlet for all to see. I don't talk about it in the real world, which still baffles me. When I did advertise it on the big social media sites, I felt embarrassed and overexposed. On this space, I will continue to share creatively my perspective on things and the places I have traveled with family, friends and subscribers, however, in more than 150 word snippets. 


  1. smiles....cut FB almost 2 years ago now...and what a relief...i still trickle by on twitter ...maybe an update a day and a promo for a poem but...its too much...and too many people want to know too much you know...and get involved in ways they dont need to...had a couple stalkers that were really scary as well...one i even had to get the law involved with...and then the drama...oy...anyway, i dont miss it...if i get a stray thought to open it up again i usually smack myself silly with reminders of why i dont...smiles...

  2. Oy, a stalker! Was it of the Fatal Attraction-kind? hahaha! I'll have to contact you when I feel like I'm falling off the wagon. C ya!

  3. Sometimes, I think about this, too... Facebook. It really has become an experiment and we play the lab rat. :( And seriously, why do my friends need to know that I like that status or that I commented on someone else's status? When it says "Privacy" it doesn't mean that. And I have to remember, it is a free social website and that there really is no security. :(

    My boyfriend doesn't do social networking (He doesn't even have a Cell Phone!!!).. He sometimes teases me about my Facebook, but I think he likes my Blog. I think Blogging is more meaningful as well. More than FB. I mean, the majority of people are all on social networks and almost live through these things.

    I agree w/ Brian Miller.. Stalkers... I remember one time some person made up a fake profile page on MySpace and started to bash on me and saying mean stuff to me... Like really? Who has time for games like that? Internet bullying. Geez.

    *Sigh* I mean, at least I do have a cell phone to connect w/ the few folks I really need to. Though I am a very private-public person.... Plus, I don't like to think that I really do have 34534523468907243 friends, LOL!

    1. Cyber bullies the biggest cowards in my book. I can relate with your B...I can live without a cellphone. My husband hated that. I think that's why he bought me a smartphone. I'll never leave it behind because of the camera. Smart man...hehehe.

  4. I can relate to everything you are saying here. I quit Twitter two years ago too and never looked back. I even quit FB for 6 months... I did go back... and now, well I wish I hadn't. I keep the account simply as my version of the phonebook for people to be able to get in touch with me but I've quit doing much on it recently. I also let my "public" blog expire and disappear off the internet. I didn't like that people in my "real life" were reading it and I too felt that feeling of being overexposed. Man. I totally appreciate this post and your heart. I was driving home from Bible study today and had this feeling of joy in being out in the world connecting with friends through this bible study and being absent from the online world of my old blog and FB. It's pretty awesome.

  5. Glad you're loving your study but I will say I miss your blog. Thank goodness for Instagram.

  6. Oh my gosh, I need to catch up on your posts. You did a whirlwind of them after being so absent and I just got used to checking in every week or so. No more!
    This post resonates with me so much. Have been thinking about these very same things. Some days I really good at staying away, and other days I find my restlessness leading me back to just scrolling and scrolling.
    My husband read an article somewhere that explained the same "high" we get when we check our email/fb/etc. constantly is the same "high" an addict has. It's that "i'll check one more time just to see if there's one little message for me" addiction. I'm guilty of it, especially with having an iphone in my hand! It's a daily choice to not let it rule me.

    1. I can't believe they are comparing it to an addict "high" but can understand, why. I have to agree with what Jean said, too. It's free and it is a great way of keeping in touch with friends but the information is just too much and slightly superficial. My experience on the blog circuit has always been so much more fun and meaningful. I think I'll be blogging way into my eighites...hehehe.


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